I was informed this weekend* that the readers during weddings are generally pitied. Because doing the readings is a BS job. The Junior Varsity to the bridal party's Varsity.
But we don't have a bridal party. And there are only so many "jobs" to do (without being a full-on working vendor).
So I would just like to express that these wedding rules of thumb? They're absolute crap. If somebody has a role in my wedding (even if it's just showing up and watching the ceremony), they're important. I don't want people who don't lead exemplary lives to read the sacred words we've chosen. I don't want people in unhappy relationships to pray over our rings. And I don't want people who we DO choose to carry out these roles to feel slighted.
If you're so much as invited to my wedding, I want you to know that you are important to us. I'm sorry we can't have all of you be bridal party members or give you all specific jobs to do. But I want you all to know that we love you, and we're so excited that you're a part of our community. Come, eat, dance and don't over-think it.
*Otherwise it was a pretty awesome weekend, spent with 2 of my most favorite ladies in the whole world.